I was at work today, trying to come up with something to blog about. So I asked my co-workers for some suggestions. We got into this long, convoluted discussion starting with violence in men vs women and ending with men crying.
So I got to thinking on my way home from work: I don't like to see men cry. I find it unmanly and a huge turnoff. The women I work with said even if a family member dies, they don't want to see a man cry. They understand it - they just don't like it.
Also I really don't like watching women sportscasters (except for Suzyn Waldman of the NY Yankees). They just don't sound as sports-intelligent as men. But I don't mind listening to Scott Hamilton talk about figure skating. For some reason, that's okay. I'm not sure whether it's the particular person doing the broadcasting that bothers me, or the gender stereotypes that get to me.
So, does it bother anyone else if a man cries at a sad movie? Does it bother anyone else if there is a woman broadcasting a baseball game? Any other stuff like that bother you?
Let me know.
Taryn
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I have to agree that it bothers me to see men crying, the only time i dont find it a turn off is when they are at a funeral where an immediate family member has passed away (such as a brother father). I know that probably sounds bad but it must be because i was raised with two brothers and they were always told not to cry.
ReplyDeleteAs far as sports go i hate when woman annouce sports it drives me nuts, i am a huge sports fan and nothing annoys me more than to see a woman in that spot much less a woman who doesnt know what she is talking about. Often time i feel like i could better announce a game but i would never dream of actually doing in live.
I have to say though that i listen to the morning mash up on XM every morning and i really enjoy listening to nicole talk crap with the guys. So i feel that woman can work on radio stations but i dont see that they are fit to work as a sports announcer. I guess that part of woman getting equal rights is going to take effect and one day more woman will become announcers, while i dont believe that the men always know more about a sport i do believe that men just sound better when it comes to announcing a sporting event.
Taryn,
ReplyDeleteYou know I never really thought about it. Whenever my children cries it bothers me and I mean now (ages, 28, 26, 20). When my son (20) cries, we recently had to put down our cat, he cried (badly), along with me and I think if he didn't I would have been surprised. I've seen my ex cry when his parents died, and my dad when he lost his brother. So I guess my answer is, no it doesn't bother me to see men cry.
As far as sport casters (male or females), if they seem knowledgeable it wouldn't matter to me. Do I think that my age plays a factor in my thinking, no I don't think so. Because usually more "mature" (age-wise) people have the potential to stigmatized about men and tears and male and female sport casters, yeah I do. I guess it depends on the individual. So, my answer, there's no wrong or right answer - it just what you do think.
I have to say when I saw Patrick Swayze cry on a Barbara Walters special a few years back, my crush on him grew stronger. He was talking about losing his father and teared up. I believe when a man cry's, he shows he is capable of opening up with his emotions and that he can go against the norm, but showing that it is alright to cry. I know my brother was very upset when his cat dies a couple of months ago. This surprised my father, who thought my brother was stronger then that. Showing emotions really does not play into strength and as long as they are not cry babies, I have no problem with seeing men cry. It actually makes me respect them more.
ReplyDeleteAs for women sportscasters, I agree with Robin that as long as they are knowledgeable, they have as much right as men. Dana Pennett-O'Niel is a sportscaster for Philadelphia Daily News and does a really good job. She went to my daughter's high school and came into school one day to speak with my daughter's class. My daughter was so excited when she came home from school and thought that Dana had the coolest job. Every time I see her on the program I wish those opportunities were available in my day.
Taryn,
ReplyDeleteIt also makes me uncomfortable or embarrassed if a man cries over trivial things. Like Tiffany I think it is acceptable to cry over serious matters like the lose of a loved one or something along those lines.
I know it is wrong but, I find it very unmanly if a man cries over a movie like the Titanic or Lion King.I am not very good with overly sensative or emotional people.
However, I also think it is unattractive for a women to cry over silly things as welll, or cry just to be manipulative. Like when some women cry to get of getting a ticket. So for me the crying game goes both ways, I don't think men or women should do it unnecessarily.
I don't find anything wrong with men showing their emotions. We all have feelings and sometimes it is good to express them rather than not showing any emotion. Whether it's a funeral or a sad movie, I think its ok for men to show that they have feelings too. Why is it that it's only ok for women to show their feelings? I certainly do not cry all the time but in particular circumstances, such as my best friend dying of cancer. I never cried in front of her but I certainly did when I wasn't around her. I wanted to be strong for her and support her and her emotional roller coasters. I think there are particular circumstances that show us women that men too have feelings.
ReplyDeleteAs for sports casters, I think men or women are equally capable of performing this task. However, sometimes you might not like the way a person is broadcasting it to you. Sometimes there is just something about them you just don't like. But men or women should both have the ability to pursue their broadcasting career. I think it’s great when a women broadcasts about sports and especially when they know the sport.